Marriage

     Hello! Welcome back to the blog. Last week we talked about getting engaged and the importance of that. This week we're taking it a step further, marriage. Marriage is the next and ultimate step in a relationship. This seals the deal between you and your partner. This is a very special moment in both you and your partners life as you are dedicating the rest of your lives together. Now, that last sentence might sound a little scary. The rest of your life is a big commitment, but  being together forever is also comforting. Spending the rest of your life and eternity with someone you love brings peace to my soul, to know I have someone there for me for the rest of my life sounds like a dream. However, that doesn't mean marriage is easy. I've never been married, but I observe my parents, and all four of my older siblings are married so i've been around a lot of couples my whole life to realize it's hard. There are going to be arguments, trials, and disappointments, but with lows of life comes joy, hope, and forgiveness, We can't know what happiness is without feeling sorrow. I think that's the point of marriage. To experience life with someone to it's fullest whether it's overcoming a sickness, coming to an agreement over a fight, or just finding laughter during a difficult time. 

    The next important step with a married couple is moving into their own place for the first time together. Although cohabitation is a big thing these days, I truly believe waiting until you're married before moving in together is the way to go. It gives you that security that your significant other can't just walk-out on you without risking something. Marriage is a two way commitment and moving in with someone is a big step in a relationship. Getting a new roommate with a different family background can be difficult, but also humbling as you watch your person do things differently than you have you're entire life. This is something i'm currently learning, it's not easy, as I recently got engaged, I can't change my fiancé. He may wash the dishes differently than I do, but that's how he was taught so he should be able to do it that way. I'm not here to make him like me and he's not here to make me be like him. I think it is so important to keep our individuality while married. To bring what we both were taught in our own households and try and bring them together into our home. This may be challenging our first month of marriage, or even the rest of our lives really, but I am so excited to come together and see what kind of home we can make even though we come from pretty different backgrounds.

    There is also a special bond that husband wife share, and that comes with intimacy. Intimacy is a topic that should be talked with maturity and diligence. It is such a special act and today it is not being respected in the way it should be. Our bodies are sacred and the abilities we have to do with it are very special and should be handled in that way. However, in today's society, sex is only a physical drive while it is so much more. A lot of people don't realize that the brain is actually the biggest sex organ in the body, not the reproductive organs. Intimacy can be emotional as it is supposed to be a special action between husband and wife as it makes them feel safe, respected, warm, and close to one another. Intimacy is a very important, special, and vital part of a marriage.

    

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